Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
Sat Nam Readers!
So something happened this week that makes me ever more grateful for Guru’s wisdom and ever more grateful for the blessings in my life. Thirty people left my friend’s list on Facebook. 30. 3-0. That’s 3 10’s and counts as almost 10% of my friend’s list. One day I had 278 people on there and now… 250 (with 2 new people added).
On June 26th, I changed all of my accounts to my Sikh name. Overnight, 19 people disappeared. In the three days since then, 11 more have joined them. Yay! Before you suggest that they left because they didn’t recognize my name… my profile picture was … a picture of me. My roommate (bless her, she’s so positive most of the time) suggested that maybe those who left didn’t recognize that it was me. You know… they were just going through their friends’ list and they deleted anyone they didn’t recognize. That would explain maybe one or two people but 30 in 3 days? Way too much of a coincidence for that to be the case. Plus, as I said, my profile picture was not a Bob Dylan quote at the time – it was a picture of me in a head scarf.
|Bob Dylan – this quote ran through my head
when I first realized my friends list was smaller
How is that a blessing, you ask? How can losing friends be a blessing? What are you talking about, crazy girl? Just how are you blessed by this occurrence?
Well, first it brought to mind a quote by Bob Dylan – “All I can do is be me, whoever that is.” I am grateful that Waheguru has given me the strength and confidence to be just who I am, the genuine me, all of the time. I don’t, I won’t hide who I am even if others don’t like it. It’s not their life, it’s mine. It was good to be reminded of this blessing.
|This is the profile picture my
former friends would have
seen when the either blocked or
Second, the thirty who left (so far) left without any drama whatsoever. There was no “If you’re going to carry a Sikh name, I’m going to unfriend you.’, no overt and specific venom spewed in my general direction, no questions, no goodbyes. They just up and disappeared. The lack of any drama (not that their drama would have had an effect on me) was also a blessing. They made a choice, they hit the “Unfriend” button or maybe the “Block” button and they left… quietly.
Third, I added two new friends in that same time period. Also Sikh, I doubt they’ll suddenly unfriend me for being a Sikh. New friends are always a blessing.
Fourth, they weren’t really friends to begin with, if just by virtue of using my legally-changed faith name, for living fully as a Sikh woman, they decided to either block or unfriend me. So, it’s a blessing to know their true attitudes and have them voluntarily remove themselves from my life. I don’t hate them. I don’t have time for haters though. I haven’t taken the time nor do I plan to, to go through my friend’s list to figure out who left. It doesn’t matter. I don’t spend anytime thinking about them or wondering why they did what they did. What matters is those who remain on the list. It was good to be reminded what a blessing they are and how grateful I am to have them in my life. I’ve spend a lot of time over the last four or five days thinking about those incredible, awesome people who remain. What I’ve ever done to deserve all that awesome – 252 blessings – I’ll probably never fully understand but I’m grateful for sure.
Finally, there’s a blessing in knowing that I truly don’t worry about what other people think of me. My life and how I live it, ultimately, is between me and Waheguru. Detaching from ego and the pain and stress that it brings, truly is a blessing for which I am also grateful.
So thank you for those who stayed, I am blessed to have you in my life.
And thank you to those who left, for reminding me that my life is rich in blessings.
Sat Nam Readers!